When I really like my therapist😊 - Transference Issues Part 1.

This information will make most sense when we are already engaged in the therapy process and this knowledge may help to understand our surprising feelings. In the beginning of the sessions when we like our therapist and we feel they are the right fit for us, we usually “love them” and idolize them, we think they are great, someone finally get us, understands, has empathy and compassion. What a lovely experience, we feel better we are happier. We think very highly about our therapist what a great human being, they are so noble, caring and wise, almost superhuman. This is a beginning of a therapeutic relationship and it is important. We need to respect and like our therapist to influence and to help us maneuver through our life’s challenges. We also project our expectations and ideas of who we think our therapist is, we often give them superpowers and think they are very special and exceptional. This is called transference. It is very helpful to therapy work. It gives us motivation and helps us be accountable for our work. It is normal that we forget in this relationship centered on the client, that our time is limited and we are the customer. We are paying our therapist to work for us. And in this contained relationship and with their right training, it is easy to for a therapist to appear wonderful. After all, we contract to give them power to help us. Therapists are only human, they should try to do their best work, be caring and emphatic, outside of therapy sessions however, they have their own lives, struggles and full imperfect human experience.  At this time however we are a happy client we are open to work with our wonderful therapist.  Continued in the next part when we like our therapist less.